Thursday, November 30, 2006
Unplug the phone, and light some candles (nix the harsh overhead lighting). Make sure the room is toasty, and get ready to give your partner your undivided attention. Use the following hands-on techniques and you'll both be in for a treat tonight.
Carl Juste/Miami Herald
Anyone who's gotten a scalp massage at a hair salon knows how it makes you tingle all over.
The most sensitive body parts are the head and neck, ears, sides of the body from armpits to hips, inner thighs, fingers and toes, and, of course, genitals. Here are seven steps to the best massage you'll ever give — and receive.
Step 1: Warm your hands. With your guy lying on his stomach, in the buff, warm your hands by rubbing them together. Place them on your partner — one hand on the upper back, one on the lower. Leave your hands there for a long moment; this starts your sweetie on the path to total relaxation.
Step 2: Lather your palms. Rub a small amount of oil between your hands to make it warm. Then start rubbing your hands up and down your sweetie's whole backside. Accentuate the strokes until you feel him relax.
Step 3: Continue down to the legs. Be sure to cover both the front and back with sensual strokes. Don't forget the feet! There's a whole school of massage — reflexology — devoted solely to the soles. Spend time really digging into your sweetheart's footsies.
Basic strokes
Sliding: Lightly slide the entire surface of your hands up and down your partner's body. This stroke is great for the arms, legs, back, and chest.
Palm circling: Move your hands in circles on your partner's fleshy parts. Be careful not to massage bones directly -- it doesn't feel very good.
Kneading: Grasp your honey's flesh as if you were kneading bread dough. Use on the stomach, legs, booty, arms, hands, and feet.
Rolling: Roll the flesh of your sweetie's arms and legs between your hands as if you were rolling clay.
Thumb stroking: Using your thumbs, massage in a circular motion. Work upward and away from the spine when focusing on the back and shoulders.
Hair sweeping: If you have long hair, sweep it across your partner's body.
Step 4: Move up to the arms. Use some palm circling on his upper arm and forearm muscles, and then use your thumbs to massage the heels of your honey's hands. Be sure to flex his fingers and rotate his wrists.
Step 5: Nurture the neck and head. Anyone who's gotten a scalp massage at a hair salon knows how this makes you tingle all over. Use your fingertips and nails (gently) to really dig in there.
Step 6: Flip him over. Massage his chest muscles, kneading the fleshy parts and using your fingertips to massage the nipples. Imagine that your fingers are following the spokes on a bicycle wheel, and let them circle from the center of the nipple to its edge. Remember to use a light touch! Move down to the abdomen, but take care: Press deeply, but not so much that it hurts. Make sure that what you're doing feels good.
Step 7: We'll leave the rest up to you. Chances are you'll get a thankful response no matter what you do.
Note: Massage oil is the only required accessory. You can use scented or unscented, or even baby oil in a pinch.
Just rub your hands together to warm them and the oil before touching your partner's bare skin. Then set up a massage workspace by covering your bed with towels — so the massage oil doesn't ruin your sheets.
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